Handy Tips:Pin the blame on the donkey

You are in an argument and you are feeling angry, at the same time the person you are argueing with is feeling the same way so yelling at one another will only make situation worst. So the better way is to :

• Stop and ask yourself: "Do i really need to say this?" Wait and think about what's troubling before you speak about it.
• be willing to say:"OK, I'll back off and really try to listen to you this time." Sometimes sticking up for one self is good but sometimes it leads to a stalemate.
• Recognise when you are angry and blaming your partner. Try this strategy: Say, "I think I'm getting angry . " Then pause and say, " I need time to think over what's going on in me before i can talk to you."
• Look deeply within yourself t find what is troubling you. Communicate about what is causing your pain.
• The blame game stops when the couple can say, " Let's pin the blame on the donkey instead of each other." use these phrases to stop blaming:" I see what you mean," or " I never looked at it in that way," or "You might be right".

*information is obtained from 'the Star' newspaper for benefit of all

Something to ponder upon

Here are some meaningful pictures that are worth pondering upon.

Never underestimate at woman

There was a man who had worked all of his life and had saved all of his money and was a really tight when it came to his money. He loved money more than just about anything, and just before he died, he said to his wife, "Now listen. When I die, I want you to take all my money and put it in the casket with me. I want to take my money to the after life with me." And so he got his wife to promise him with all of her heart that when he died, she would put all of the money in the casket with him.

Well, he died. He was stretched out in the casket, his wife was sitting there in black, and her friend was sitting next to her. When they finished the ceremony, just before the undertakers got ready to close the casket, the wife said, "Wait just a minute!" She had a box with her, she came over with the box and put it in the casket. Then the undertakers locked the casket down, and they rolled it away. Soher friend said, "Girl, I know you weren't fool enough to put allthatmoney in therewith your husband." She said, "Listen, I'm a GOOD WOMAN, I can't goback on myword. I promised him that I was gonna put that money in that casket with him.""You mean to tell me you put that money in the casket with him!!!!?" "I sure did,"said the wife. "I wrote him a cheque."Never Underestimate The Intelligence Of A Woman"

Handy Tips

As the saying goes, "Prevention is better than cure", well it can somehow fit this case. Whether or not your house have been burglared before, there is nothing wrong with taking measures to protect your valuables. You may have installed a burglar alarm but these things do happen anyway even with a burglar alarm. Now this may not gurrantee that your valuables will be safe the next time burglars break into your house but it will surely take a longer time for the burglars to find what they want and take it away. So here are a few steps to consider :

• Remove valuables from burglar friendly places such as : your master bedroom, your closet, dresser drawers adn nightstands
  
• Hide some of your money in a child's room or play area. Hide it on the underside of a child's table or the child's cooking set. You may even want to hide it in a stuffed toy. Be sure the money is out of the child's reach.

• Consider hiding valuables in unorganised or cluttered places such as store rooms. Burglars want in and out. They do not want to search through a gigantic mess.

• Use a diversion safe, such as a box of rice that is realy a safe, for some things. Be careful to only use high quality diversion boxes. Burglars are savvy to diversion boxes, so yours should look and feel like the real thing.

*information obtained from the Star Newspaper